Subjects Every A.A. or Other 12-Step
Newcomer Should Learn from the Start
By Dick B.
© 2013 Anonymous. All rights reserved
Catching the Newcomer as He
Enters the Rooms, No Matter How He Enters
There are many ways
a newcomer enters or might enter recovery in a 12-Step program such as
Alcoholics Anonymous. It could be in a jail or prison. Or by referral from a
physician, psychiatrist, social worker, clergyman, family member, friend,
counselor, therapist, interventionist, detox, treatment program, hospital,
judge, probation officer, sober living house, rescue mission, Salvation Army
program, or other way. Any one of these ports of entry can and should concern
itself with informing the newcomer from the start instead of condoning
“relationships,” ignoring self-centered whining, encouraging mere attendance at
meetings, fostering uninformed listening, providing a forum for opinionated
talkers, settling for mere court card-signing, and handing down “authoritative”
statements.
Short-changing the Newcomer
In many ways today, a
newcomer’s first contact, first sponsor, first counselor, first group, first
meeting, first conference, etc., often simply doesn’t have a “to do” list.
Therefore, the newcomer usually gets short-changed by hearing rumors and
guesses and opinions from 12-Step members and other people sharing in the rooms
of the various 12-Step programs such as A.A. He also doesn’t usually have
experienced or studied people to guide him. In early A.A.—particularly as seen
in A.A.’s first group, “Akron Number One”—newcomers were taught, in large part,
by highly educated non-alcoholic people who could organize and conduct a
meeting, and who could teach—from the Bible, about prayer, about Quiet Time,
about literature, and about surrenders. Today, the newcomer should attend an
informative and instructive Beginner’s Meeting or Orientation Meeting that will
launch him on the path to recovery by knowing his fellowship.
Some Real Newcomer Needs Today
Newcomers today need
mentors or sponsors who are well-prepared before they instruct. In addition,
the newcomer needs an orientation meeting; and a beginner’s meeting (whether in
treatment, in a series of meetings, from a counselor, from an intervention, or even
from speakers). Far too often, an ill-prepared, though well-intentioned guide or
sponsor doesn’t explain important points such as:
1. Why and for what reason (if any) “meetings”
have assumed such importance in today’s recovery scene and how they contrast
with the simplicity of “old school” A.A.;
2. What to look for in the meetings—hearing from
those who talk about or teach; e.g.:
a. The 12 Steps;
b. The Big Book;
c. Conference-approved literature; and
d. God;
3. Why so little organization exists in meeting
content versus what could be accomplished;
4. Why he should learn key points about A.A.
history; e.g.:
a. How the first three AAs (cofounders Bill W.
and Dr. Bob, and A.A. #3 Bill D.) got sober;
b. What the original Akron A.A. Group Number One—a Christian Fellowship program--did;
c. What the supposed “Six Steps” story is all
about and how the content is unsettled and of little improtance;
d. What the “Four Absolutes” are; and how used
as “yardsticks” and in inventories;
e. What A.A.’s cofounders brought to the table
from their younger days and upbringing;
f. Why the Big Book has personal stories—the importance
of restoring them;
g. What the stories can teach;
h. Where the 12 Steps came from—the 3 identified
sources and other influences;
i.
The
importance of the first (1939) edition of the Big Book; and the value and
economy in using Alcoholics Anonymous The
Original 1939 Edition, With a 23-Page Introduction by Dick B., published by
Dover Publications, Inc.
j.
Who provided
what to the A.A. program and at what time;
k. Where the Bible, the Oxford Group, Quiet
Time, a vital religious experience, Dr. William Silkworth, Rev. Samuel
Shoemaker, Dr. Carl Jung, Professor William James, surrender, and conversion
fit in the picture;
l.
The
significance of the Four Absolutes;
m. The relevance, if any, of prayer and meditation, “powerless,” “higher
power,” self-made religion, half-baked prayers, nonsense gods, and changes in
the Steps and Big Book in 1939;
5. Whether “an informed group conscience,” a
“loving God as He may express Himself in a Group conscience,” and so-called
“spirituality” do or do not make up a useful element of recovery;
6. What is the meaning and purpose of such
expressions as “spiritual, but not religious”;
7. What forms of behavior have no place in recovery
meetings—things like outbursts, criticisms, intolerance, vulgarity, intimidation,
and “governance”; and
8. Where all the foregoing suggestions do or do
not produce a rewarding result for the newcomer.
The Temptation Problems
Today’s recovery
mentors or sponsors need to be aware that temptation is a major trap. And that
it is well explained in the first chapter of the Book of James, which was a
favorite of early AAs. Expressions like “Don’t go to slippery places or hang
out with slippery people” are related to the “old ideas” AAs often don’t like
to give up. But there are endless temptations, based on the offers of liquor,
the presence of dealers, pressure from friends and peers, parties, sports
events, spontaneous urges, and the little-understood “too hungry, angry,
lonely, or tired.” My own experience with these last four is that loneliness,
isolation, fear, and invitations to join are directly related to isolation and
temptation, and warrant caution.
Sponsorship and Working With
Others
Then, someone needs
to teach the newcomer what he should look for in, and receive from, a sponsor.
And to provide an introduction to what a sponsor should do with the newcomer—to
prepare the newcomer for effectively helping others. The absolute necessity for
helping others, and working with others, and starting sponsorship as soon as
possible.
The Importance of Communicating
and Avoiding Isolation
Someone needs to be
teaching the newcomer the importance of communication—phone calls, “the meeting
after the meeting,” “coming early and leaving late,” exchanging names and
numbers, giving rides and riding with others, and reaching out to others in
meetings.
The Frequent Mention of God
(Creator) in Today’s Conference-approved Literature
And someone needs to
be informing the newcomer of the place “God” occupies in the Big Book, where
that word occurs 235 times in pages 1-164 of the current (fourth—2001) edition.
The Growing Trend or Risk in
Ignoring God and Talking About “Nonsense gods”
Someone needs to be
teaching newcomers that there is a big difference between: (1) the recent
emphasis in some quarters of the recovery scene which assert that it is
acceptable to believe in “nothing at all” as “the Solution” to becoming and
staying clean and sober; and (2) the highly-successful, early Akron A.A.
program which stressed dependence upon, reliance upon, and prayer to the Creator
as “the Solution” (See page 25 of the 4th edition of Alcoholics Anonymous) to the problem of
how to recover from alcoholism and drug addiction. The first emphasis just
mentioned—relying on “Somebody,” a light bulb, or “nothing at all” is being
seen more and more often in modern recovery writings and secular 12 Step trends.
The second emphasis—for which Alcoholics Anonymous claims a 75% success rate
among “seemingly-hopeless,” “medically-incurable, “last-gasp-case,” “real”
alcoholics in the current edition of the Big Book—is seen with frequency in
A.A. General Service Conference-approved literature such as:
1. Alcoholics
Anonymous [“the Big
Book”—particularly in the “Personal Stories” section of the original (1939)
edition];
2. The
Co-Founders of Alcoholics Anonymous pamphlet (Item # P-53);
3. Alcoholics
Anonymous Comes of Age;
4. DR. BOB
and the Good Oldtimers; and
5. ‘Pass
It On.’
What God Can Do For Us If We
Seek Him
The newcomer misses
the real spiritual elements of early A.A. when he doesn’t learn, and isn’t
armed with facts about, how God’s forgiveness, guidance, love, power, healing,
and help played a major role in helping the early A.A. pioneers—who set the
standard for success in recovery—which is to get well, stay well, and seek a
life of prosperity and health, relying on God.
The Basic Ideas for A.A. and
the Steps Came From the Efforts, Studies, and Teachings From the Bible
Informed mentors or
sponsors need to share with newcomers why early AAs placed particular emphasis
on studying the Bible itself—in particular, the Book of James, Jesus’s Sermon
on the Mount (Matthew chapters 5-7), and 1 Corinthians 13--as stated on page 13
of the A.A. General Service Conference-approved pamphlet The Co-Founders of Alcoholics Anonymous: Biographical Sketches: Their
Last Major Talks. The Book of James was the favorite among early AAs. Both
A.A. cofounders Bill and Dr. Bob stated that Jesus’s Sermon on the Mountain
contained the spiritual philosophy of A.A. And Dr. Bob strongly emphasized
reading Henry Drummond’s The Greatest
Thing in the World—a study of 1 Corinthians 13.
All of this with
great success before there were any Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions, Big Books,
war stories, or meetings like those we know today.
Showing the Newcomer the Traps
to Avoid and the Privileges He or She Have
Today’s mentors or
sponsors need to inform newcomers that no one can learn too much about such
points as:
1. The fact that no 12 Step program has any
bosses, governors, presidents, rule-makers, sanctions, punishments, or
evictions;
2. Why leaders are, at most, called servants
3. The fact that any individual or group or
meeting has the freedom to read what they wish, believe what they wish, say
what they wish, and use whatever literature will be helpful for recovery so
long as:
a. A distinction is made between A.A. General
Service Conference-approved literature, and all other literature (like that
which early AAs have long read freely); and
b. Objections or disputes are resolved by
informed group consciences (after a loving God is called upon to express
Himself), and are measured by what A.A. has long done and approved.
c. See Dick B. and Ken B., “Stick with the Winners!”
Laughing and Fun Go With the
Territory
Someone needs to
instruct today’s newcomers as to why the expression “We are not a glum lot” is
important to recovery; and why laughter, smiles, humor, recreation, sports,
movies, plays, music, camping, hiking, rafting, and other pleasant group and
individual pursuits are vital.
A Solid Understanding of What
Meetings are For and Can Do
Newcomers need to be
taught that their mentor or sponsor will send them to, and will attend with
them, quality talks, meetings, and conferences. They need to be introduced to
winners. They need speaker meetings where the foregoing concepts are presented.
They need Big Book studies which are conducted by informed teachers, rather
than being based on audience reflections. They need to study Steps for which
guides are provided. They need to learn:
1. The elements and Big Book suggestions
involved in taking each Step;
2. The Solution as defined on page 25 of the Big
Book;
3. How to sort out the mixture of “religious
experience, spiritual experience, spiritual awakening, God-consciousness, and
‘awareness.’” With respect to these, the newcomer needs explanations of the Big
Book, Steps, and A.A. history; and only the content of a successful
“experience” should be framed and passed along. See Dick B. and Ken B., Pioneer
Stories in Alcoholics Anonymous.
The topics suggested
in this article may sound like a big order for today’s mentors and sponsors. Meetings
abound with welcomes for the newcomer, with statements that he is the most
important person in the room, and with a stated primary purpose of helping the
person who still suffers. All true. Alcoholism and most addictions are life-and-death
matters. But purposeless and diversionary dating and “relationship” pursuits
and problems, war stories, drunkalogs, pointless discussion meetings, and
ill-prepared Big Book, Step, literature, Beginner, Bible, and speaker meetings,
and literature, do not make for success.
Getting the “Message” Straight
Let’s be mentors or
sponsors who are actually carrying an accurate, effective message to those who
still suffer. Bill’s “sponsor” Ebby Thacher was the first person to carry the
message that God can and will do for you what you could not do for yourself.
Holding Orientation, Indoctrination,
Information Beginners Talks or Meetings
Many a newcomer
walks in the rooms of A.A. and learns little or nothing about the program, its
origins, its history, and the path the newcomer should follow for recovery. The
foregoing are points to make clear to him.
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